Living in a Positive Way
The Total Power of Positive Thinking
It is good to treat other people the way you would like to be treated yourself. It’s like a golden rule for success and there’s a reason for it, and that reason is that we’re connected in some strange way that we don’t totally understand. Unless you are good to other people around you- unless you’re a kind and friendly and warm and loving, you’re not going to enjoy this life.
Living in a Positive Way ▼
Without motivation, you’re just not you’re going to be problems everywhere you go you’re going to have problems everywhere you go you got to figure out a way to enjoy this life it’s not because of Jesus it’s not because of Moses it’s not because of anybody that may or may not have ever existed it’s because that’s how you fit in better in the world that’s how you stay positive and it doesn’t have to be some that was written 5,000 years ago on animal skins that doesn’t have to be the golden rule because it’s old you know that’s dumb we need to figure out like now today what is you know the best way to live your life what is that you know there’s got to be ways so you can be putting forward the most positive energy and confidence I mean we know objectively what’s causing pollution we know objectively what’s causing birth defects and you know and we’re taking in too much chemicals and not enough vitamins we know objectively all this stuff we know how to organize our world and yeah we don’t do it we know how to organize our health and yet very few people do it we know all these things the right path to like being like a happy healthy person is to do all this that we already know you’re supposed to do take care of your body take care of your health take care of your mind your stress meditate be kind to people we all know that I mean you ask anybody they know how to get by and to be the most evolved version of you that you can be I mean it’s not like a magical checklist if you talk to people about it you said okay here you got a person you want to improve them what are the things you’re going to do to them okay well if I was a life coach the first thing I would say is this guy’s got to get on a diet that makes them healthy I don’t mean to die just to lose weight I mean just healthy foods in your body need many vegetables a lot of good quality protein a lot of water stop the sodas stop the Bulls start working out your body and get a better sense of like how this machine feels when it’s moving it’s flowing better there’s less tension in it your mind feels like relaxed and you enjoy every single moment of the day better step 1 everybody knows that step right what step 2 be cool to people be nice to his many people as you can’t smile at his many people as you can have them smile back at you tip well when you go to restaurants just do the most you can be as nice as you can you know and just still manage to have people walk all over you just get through this life it’s nice you’re ten what else do what you want to do with your life right don’t go be doing something you don’t enjoy don’t do something that’s don’t get locked into you know a car that you can’t afford and doing something crazy because you need the money don’t do that do what you want to do what cliff is it that you really want to do because if someone else is doing it you can do it you know I mean everybody makes their own path through this world but a lot of people don’t follow the path that they really feel pulled to you know theirs for whatever reason they got negative programming you know when they were kids someone told them that couldn’t do it or told them to take the shortcut or take the shore route that’s a sad thing man when you talk to dudes especially like talented dudes and they don’t follow up with what they want to do you know a bunch of people that will say yeah well I’ve a family sure you know it’s a great idea for you to just go out there and go crazy I have people to support you need to listen stop saying that stop saying any of those things every single person who has ever done anything worthwhile or exceptional or difficult or extraordinary success anyone whether it’s great artists or authors or mathematicians or whatever the it is everyone encounters difficulties there is no easy road it does not exist it is impossible everyone has issues if you have time to pursue a hobby if you have time to do any in your life you can better yourself and here’s one way you never better yourself when you come up with excuses for why other people are successful in your not that it’s dangerous when you give yourself an escape yeah well that’s easy for you to say you know you do dude you didn’t – trust me everybody has a hard road I wanted to jump out of windows several times during my young life I wanted to jump in front of a train just ended because too much pressure not really but you know I’m saying theoretically we all go through hard times we all go through depression we all do go through doubt and then moments in your life where it’s really difficult and you’re trying to figure out what the your path is going to be its hardest but Stephan and we’re talking about this before the podcast starts that that is what makes you a person and those difficult moments are what build your character show me a great man who’s the son of a great man that’s what we’re saying these kids that are born billionaires you’re never going to be a self-made person you have a backup trust for your back up trust for your trust and your man fascinated by martial arts I’m fascinated by comedy I’m fascinated by many different things I don’t understand when people say they’re bored because if I had the time to live a hundred lives I’d be speaking different languages I’d be living in different countries I would I would try out a number of different careers because I think there’s a lot of unbelievably fascinating puzzling complex things that you could study in this world that’s just me and my personality but that’s a personality also that I’ve cultivated over years and we like that as a kid – while I was involved in martial arts very early and I think that is one of the things that motivated me to explore difficult tasks because through difficult tasks you learn an incredible amount about yourself and you through the fire of competition you get to understand you get to understand motivation you get to understand the resistance that you have inside your mind – doing the hard work you get to understand the rewards of discipline like you don’t truly appreciate relaxation unless you’ve worked hard and that is the yin and the yang of life and I’ve said this – to the point of people getting sick of it but one of the worst decisions a man can make I can only speak for men obviously is to be comfortable I don’t think you should try to be comfortable I think what you should try to do is try to earn comfort and if you if you can get a day off where you you’ve worked hard and you’ve accomplished goals that day off will be so sweet when I work hard and I sit in front of TV I enjoy the shit out of it I put my feet up I have a nice drink you know I enjoy my the airs that midst your back or something one of those are great I don’t use it that much though honestly I’m more of a workaholic than I should be probably if the balance was I probably should relax more than I do but I never feel like I earned it but that’s not part of the reason why when I do feel like I earned it I can enjoy it it’s because I am more connected to the idea that I need to accomplish things and to in and it’s not like for anybody else’s benefit other than my own or anybody else’s approval other than my own I just when I have a task whether it’s today I’m going to write a thousand words you know or two thousand or whatever the number is if I don’t do that I don’t write things down like I’ll write down a list of things that get accomplished that day and if I don’t accomplish that I’ll get sick like it’ll drive me crazy if I can’t fill out that list that drives me nuts you know but that’s what led me to be a championship-level martial artist that’s what led me to achieve it’s like that it’s the reinforcement of those goals like understanding that you can achieve those goals it’s going to be difficult you’re going to push through the difficulty and then you’re going to understand what difficulty truly is and how much of it is just mental how much of it is just in your mind this adversity to difficult tasks or to struggle you know and a lot of people have that they’re scared they’re scared of complications they’re scared of failure is a big one that people are afraid of but failure is one of the most important things you could ever have as far as like the motivation to do things differently one of the reasons why I think that I’m good at friendships and relationships is because I failed at them in the past one of the things that I’m good at comedies because I bombed on stage one of the reasons why I’m good at work is because I’ve been a worker in the past and I know the feeling of failure the feeling of shame of being like a weak non motivated lazy person it’s a weak feeling it’s an you don’t respect yourself you know and I have this phrase that I use all the time to people to try to motivate people I say that to be the hero in your own movie pretend that if your life was a movie and your life started now what would the hero do what would the person that you respected what would the person that you admire person that inspires you what would they do we’ll do that and if you do that you slowly build momentum you like today I did what I wanted to do today I started a class in yoga I did this I did all these things that I was saying I wasn’t going to do and now I feel momentum is a very important point in people’s lives that’s why some folks don’t like to take days off because they feel like they’re losing momentum and they sort of have to restart the wheel up again after a vacation and there’s a lot of folks that live life on a cushy cloud of marshmallows and bulls and then one day something goes wrong and I mean that’s why spoiled kids are so sad like a spoiled young boy is one of the saddest things ever a young boy that becomes a man and can’t take care of himself and it’s dad has to keep on rescuing him his dad has to keep on bailing them out of situations and giving them money I’ve met guys like that and that is a crippling affliction when they don’t have the character themselves to be able to get by in life they constantly need someone to help them and bail them out even as a grown man I’ve met guys in their 40s that still need help from their parents I’m like what the man you’re never going to get it right because somewhere along the line they didn’t face enough of the adversity to realize that there’s sometimes you just got to get up and get you done there’s some times we have to pull yourself up and you have to push forward even if you want to stay in bed and if you don’t do that and you just keep calling on your daddy and your daddy keeps rescuing you never develop those tools you never develop that ability to recognize what you’re doing wrong with your life because you’re soft you got a cushiony you got a safety net a safety net for your safety net say if you had like a 20 year old and he just took doper where he waking bakes and doesn’t get anything done he’s just always like hanging out with his friends and playing video games and he’s just a loser I wish there was a way you could show someone like that like I know that you’re getting some comfort and satisfaction I just laying around doing nothing eating getting fat but your life would feel better and richer if you had a goal you chased that goal you accomplished some things you would get this boost of confidence you get this boost of self-esteem like whatever it is that you’re going to do maybe you’re in a drawn comic books maybe you’re into nah but making pottery or sculptures or but fine whatever that is and pursue that instead of doing nothing like the people that are doing nothing those are the real people look doing something might be as simple as like that Honed guy he just climbs rocks but he’s world-class rock climber it’s something but it’s also a goal of his and he’s also the best at it yes yeah but those people who smoke pot all day enjoy those also the guys who hate on Joe Rogan for being in shape you don’t see there being discipline or get on Kevin Hart’s Instagram and to hate on you no I’m saying cut they don’t it’s their own insecurities I see what you’re saying but I would assume they would get motivated by seeing other people do something with their lives like that should be motivating not yeah if you grew up with losers and you’re around a bunch of people yeah too especially if it’s in your household I was very lucky that both my mom and my stepdad they’re now they’re not they’re the least hater people I’ve ever met my life they’re just not haters in any way like if someone’s doing well though I was like wow look at this guy or like wow look at her look at him there was never any hate in my house in terms of other people’s success but if you grew up with a dad and your dad’s like these all these rich assholes just you think she’s a badass and this you know there’s people that look at other people’s success instead of saying wow look I did a lot of work like the way I’m a successful person but the way I look at Kevin Hart he exhausts me you know or the rock those guys exhausted me I’m like Jesus Christ like I feel lazy next to those guys like they do so much like those guys are so overbearingly ambitious you know but some people they see that and they compare themselves and they don’t like it so they get started getting really shy and it’s like a natural feeling to try to chip away at that person the worst people that you know are the people that don’t have a good self-judge that everything they do is awesome those never grow anywhere right and that’s a huge issue with comedy when you run into people that have a terrible comedy sets but think they did great like we would always Greg Fitzsimmons and I would always talk about that with like open my curse like there’s people that hear phantom labs like they think they’re doing great and they have this delusional self-opinion where everything they do is awesome they don’t know why the not successful already they don’t know why they’re not famous and those people I believe I mean it’s from sort of a weird narcissistic way you could look at it this way that those people are there to teach you this is the consequences of not feeling that awful feeling when you fail I was talking to burr a couple weeks ago he did a set at the Comedy Store and I saw part of it was he was killing and then I ran into him in the hallway and I go out man main room show was great right and he goes yeah up at the end though I tried to hang in there too long in the last bit bomb like he was just it was a rotten atom that the last bit like he goes I hung in there too long I should have got off with a bit before that like but you know when I was in there he was killing you know but that wasn’t in his mind the success was not in his mind this was like okay whatever that happened at the end don’t do that again right but that’s why he’s bill burr that’s why he’s really good you were alone with your thoughts you get an idea of what your thoughts actually are if you live your life just acting constantly on the momentum of other people’s expectations of you wanting to be liked by these other people you can run into a trap and you set up a life that you didn’t really want you’re trapped in this situation where you have a mortgage you’ve got credit card bills you’ve got student loans you have to pay you have a bunch of going on you have to continue to feed and all that and especially if you have a family and you have to feed them oh my goodness then you’re fully locked in you can’t take any chances whatsoever and oftentimes people make the mistake of getting stuck and it is just a tactical mistake just like it would be a mistake if you got stuck on a video game just like it would be a mistake if you followed a map incorrectly and you get stuck in the woods your life is certainly some sort of a journey it’s certainly some sort of a journey and we have to all be aware that when we’re making journeys we’re not going to always make the right steps and sometimes you have to back up and try again and if you’re in a position where you can’t back up and try again you’ve trapped yourself and the system will set out honey pots for people to get trapped in the system will set out the ideas of retirement the ideas of the golden years providing you benefits providing you a healthy work environment why well because they want people to work for them they don’t want people to realize their own dreams and escape those pain in the ass you got to hire more people and train them and they want to set it up so that you stick around stick around some sort of an unsatisfying world it’s up to you to see that video game problem to see that issue as it comes up on the map known I think this is a right turn to see all the problems that could potentially lay in front of you and calculate your future and then also look around all the people that didn’t do it and look at the misery that they’re in and learn that you don’t want to be like them and then look at the people that have kind of taken chances and navigated their way what do they do differently than you what objectivity do they have that maybe you lack what insight into their own mistakes are they willing to delve into that you’re not that you step back and go you know I don’t I just don’t want to look at myself that closely but the person who’s able to look at themselves the closest it’s going to get the more rational results the things that’s causing this funk that people are in is that we’re living our lives many of us at least in these very unfulfilled ways where you’re going to this office with artificial light and you’re doing something you don’t want to do all day long and then you get home and you’re tired and on top of that you’re eating you’re eating potato chips and you’re drinking soda and your body is just like what in the is this we’re supposed to be out in the fields we’re supposed to be walking up hills we’re supposed to be looking for animals or gathering vegetables we’re supposed to be doing all these things that our body is designed to do we’re supposed to be in nature yeah and nature is like a medicine like it literally is a medicine to you like people that go you don’t have to go hunting you don’t have to go fishing just go hike man just go hike up to the top of a mountain and look out you know there’s a reward that you get from that that is intensely like soul filling just like something about like when I was in Colorado and there was this this area of Boulder we drive up one of these roads and there was this area we could park and it was this incredible view man these people just Park and just go out there and just look but you get there in your parking you go cue you would see your you literally seen the Continental Divide these snow-capped mountains in July yeah in July it’s covered with snow for whatever reason most people their associations are to avoid anything that’s uncomfortable but it’s so illogical because when you look at comfort and you look at success and progress and the eventual the feelings of accomplishment and of getting past certain hurdles and in terms of like how you feel about life a lot of those are connected to discomfort like discomfort is your friend it really is like discomfort and not being happy and content with certain situations in life or certain feelings in life there are massive motivators and they’re amazing at facilitating change and yet our instinct is to avoid those and just sit on the couch and watch some reality show about dudes and make moonshine with our jaw open like blue it’s with bizarre.[amazon_link asins=’0062803832,0762447699,0743234804,0671868918,B07492TJ79,1545022704′ template=’ProductCarousel’ store=’thebibofmet-20′ marketplace=’US’ link_id=’a3aeffc6-8128-11e8-87ae-59e6f0c81fb3′]
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